Mistakes, that’s probably a subject we all know something about having committed our share of them.
Mistakes kind of fall into categories to my way of thinking – simple honest ones,
stupid ones like touching something with a wet paint sign on to see if it really
is wet, and deliberate ones that are known to be wrong and yet committed anyway.
I knew someone who became a heroin addict, once addicted they began selling so they could feed their addiction.
They weren’t a big time dealer as I understand it but a dealer nonetheless – a good attorney, a clean prior record, and some plea bargaining and they wound up doing five years I think it was.
I happened to run into them a couple of years after they were released and as we talked the conversation turned to his heroin use and arrest. He told he knew it was a mistake but didn’t think he would become addicted.
When I asked based on what, what made him think he was different? He replied that was his first mistake thinking he would be in control and from there it snowballed.
He hurt a lot of people along the way including himself, and has a record that will follow him all the rest of his life.
A mistake? Yeah, I guess so – but too often it seems making mistakes becomes a lifestyle for some that speaks to choice and a deliberate act.
A person makes a mistake and falls down there should always be those willing to help lift them back up, a way to return, but that’s also relative I believe in the number of mistakes they make and the nature of them.
It can be hard to cut a person loose, to wash your hands of them, but sometimes that’s the only remaining thing to do, and there is a sadness in that. Saying sorry doesn’t always cut it either.
Some people are serial offenders when it comes to mistakes, they abuse the privilege of forgiveness or just don’t give a damn in the first place -they are the ones we should all cut loose – if we fail to they will trash up our lives just as they do their own, and I’m only willing to take responsibility for the mistakes I commit, not those of another.
I’m only willing to forgive and assist when the one asking is truthful and making the effort, when they accept responsibility and do what they can to make amends.
I also know people who have made big mistakes and completely turned themselves around – I’ll stand alongside such a person and go the distance with them.
If I trash up my life that’s on me, but I won’t allow another to – and I would hope if I began to trash up anothers life they would cut me loose.