Posted by rezinate on March 22, 2014
WHAT MAKES A GOOD MAN
I don’t know but it seems to me like some men are lacking a basic understanding of what it means and what it takes to be a good man, for others it just doesn’t appear to be a priority.
Mother’s and hopefully fathers attempt to instill a set of values, but at some point each son will become his own man, live his own life, and make his own decisions.
A part of this upbringing will be influenced by the community they live in, the values it holds, and the level of respect shown to others.
It isn’t uncommon when trouble arises for a parent(s) to say they didn’t raise their son that way – whether true or not if a child is living at home when they’re out the door in their daily pursuits parental “oversight” goes out the door with them.
And that is where the importance of communal values comes into play – the village raising a child as it has been referred to – but it goes beyond that and a communal standard or lack of one can and will influence an adult as well.
Schools can play a role in the upbringing of children, but again it is the quality of the school environment that impacts – parental responsibility is often shifted to school faculty, they become surrogate parents, the same could be said of television, gaming consoles and other convenient substitutes, which amount to little more in my opinion than a filler, a poor substitute akin to ingredients added to various food products.
There is no substitute for a good man providing quality examples in the life of any child son or daughter, an essential element of that is being “yoked” with a good woman pulling in a common direction.
Men should remember this “out the door” and in doing so strive to teach their sons what it means to be a good man, to provide positive examples, one of which is to show respect for the mother who birthed them and do what it takes to be a provider in as much as they can.
I can only speak or offer an opinion from an indigenous viewpoint, yet I believe there exists a universal standard that transcends cultural or ethnic considerations.
For us a part of our lives, of the examples we provide, should be those based upon traditions – not the new ones in the process of brewing but our historical ancestral ones that placed the welfare of children and community above all others…that is the true warriors way.
“It’s easier to build strong children than to repair broken men” Frederick Douglass
I’m adding the above quote provided by jpwade of the site Influenced to Death in a comment made in the original blog.
Parents can and do damage to children, attempts to repair them later in life don’t always meet with success, that’s something to think long and hard about.
In the title the word man could be replaced with woman – what makes a good woman? The same principles apply.