DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
Posted by rezinate on September 14, 2012
That time of year when the flu and colds are making the rounds and I was asked to reblog this.
Don’t sweat the small stuff -kind of a catch phrase that floats around I’m sure we’ve all heard of…..been thinking about that a little and believe it may be a part of the original balance plan, this sweating the small stuff.
Men it seems tend to zone in on what they believe are the larger issues while women appear to be more attuned to details-focusing on what men consider minutia.Now that isn’t true of all men and women but seems to be generally the way of it.
As a man if I’ve lost a button on my shirt or have work stained pants it’s kind of a whatever thing to me because I’m honed in on those larger issue-women on the other hand will notice these things immediately and seek to rectify them…they even want to know if you saved the button-assuming on their part that we actually are aware of the missing button and would have saved it if we were.
Those small details we as men tend to ignore often lead to other things that can create problems, and so this attention to varying details creates a balance where things run smoothly.
It is a fact of human nature that taking anything to the extreme will lead to problems in itself-too much attention to smaller details leads to obsessive compulsive behavior where everything has to be in a certain order-correctly aligned and positioned-too little leads to chaos.
I have a friend who loves spicy food much the same as I do-problem is it doesn’t set well with him-but his focus is on the taste and the enjoyment of the moment- and so he consumes what he will-his woman, well aware of this “detail” and having given up on reminding him carries a pack of antacid to serve as his after dinner mint-attention to small details and maintaining the balance.
As men we often assume that the mere fact of our presence is sufficient enough to “say” I love you-doesn’t work for women though as they want the details, they want to hear it, not only hear it, but know why and what exactly it is about them you love-they have a right too-part of the balance.
If it’s winter time women are going to catch you or the little ones on the way out to insure everyone puts on a jacket-attention to detail, knowing if not, someone could get sick. If you come in wet they’re going to see that you change clothes.
Cough and they go on defcon 5 red alert-ignore their well intended advice and you’re likely to get that nurse Ratched look.
A man will blow off the wet clothes and cough-after all, he’s a man and tough-women being aware of the details know this could lead to Samson being stretched out flat on his back calling for mama-details and balance.
So there is a balance to be struck-a part of that for men and women is listening to and respecting their counterpart-understanding that each bring their own strengths to the table-and that it is the recipe for a healthy relationship, harmony, and above all, the balance that is so essential in all things.
Now the examples I’ve used may not be the best, but I think everyone understands my meaning, that as men we’re lucky that women sweat the small stuff.