I think it’s important to believe in family and friends, yet I’ve seen people get all worked up over what amount to minor transgressions and in a manner of speaking throw the baby out with the bath water.
Forgetting I assume that they themselves are not perfect and will harbor a grudge for literally years.
No one goes through life without stepping on a few toes, wounding a few spirits, but what should define such things is the intent, whether it was unintentional, motivated by indifference, or by design.
Men seem to be adept at this sort of thing, I’d like to think the majority of it accidental or resulting from a lack of understanding when it comes to women, more specifically a spouse or partner, and they sometimes find themselves apologizing when they’re not even sure why.
Less so when it involves a male friend or family member.
There’s a learning curve in relationships regardless of how compatible a couple may be, that shouldn’t translate to conflict but sometimes it does.
A conflict that at times involves the staking out of “territory” and an escalation of conflict, forgetting that differences shouldn’t be perceived as a threat and the “territory” is a shared one by original agreement.
I don’t believe men or women will ever completely understand the other as we come from
different experiences and perspectives – kind of that men are from Mars and women are from Venus thing.
But then I’m not so sure people in general always fully understand themselves either as we hear a person say they don’t know why they did or said something.
Venus in mythology being a thing of peace and Mars aggressive and warlike – our people have echoed that sentiment in saying women are life givers and men life takers.
The definition being that a mans role has been to defend and often enough wage war, and women to nurture.
A definition not set in stone though as we’ve had some notable life taking women when the need to defend has arose, and men are quite capable of nurturing children and loved ones.
Cliches are neither a standard to impose or live by, though nothing is wrong with reasonable expectations – expectations of trust, of doing the right thing, and contributing to the overall welfare are the foundation relationships are built upon, the bonding agent that strengthens them.
I confess that the way women go about doing some things kind of amuses me – like the way the use a hammer, they seem inclined to grip the handle halfway or higher up, sometimes resorting to the two handed approach, and like lightning seldom strike in the same place twice.
I think that’s because they want to finesse what they’re doing, on the other hand men grip the handle as far down as they can, we’re looking to power our way through – we’re self assured rather warranted or not, and if a mistake is made it’s the tools fault.
The way women run seems a little mysterious to me, I assume it’s due to being built differently and an inherent grace they have, weight distribution, muscle structure, and swinging parts in different locations – again, with men, we’re pumping arms and looking for power.
I’ve never seen a woman sit on the wrong end of a tree limb while cutting it, the internet is rife with videos of men doing just that, or dropping a tree on their truck or house…..so much for male superiority huh?
I know the opposite is true as well, that the way we go about some things as men women find amusing, I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with that on that either side as long as it doesn’t evolve into ridicule – but rather than focusing on the differences they should be celebrated.
If they bring a smile along the way no harm no foul – it wouldn’t be much of world composed entirely of men or women.